The View Asks "Son, Are You Gay"

Should parents ask their kids if they are gay? The ladies of The View take on that question. What do you think is the right answer?

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[Ha!]

No One knows what GAY is when they're that young. They know the WORD Gay. But thats because is the same thing as calling you an asshole for having them insult us in this manner. A bunch of cackling bitches are looking for a way to find out if their kids gay so they can send them through years of brainwashing and abuse. The kid isn't going to understand why and grow up knowing the parents hate them. 1 out of 300 parents are tolerant and accepting and love their kids for who they are. All this KUNTS need to be BITCH SLAPPED. Ask your 9 year old son if he's gay or try and ask your 12 or 14 year old son. The responce is going to be NO out of fear. These KUNTS pretend but they just want ammo to shoot good people down for their hatred. Thats good teach your kids HATE!

[Shen]

The question here is "Should", not "why". I don't know why people misinterpretted this. I totally support the views brought by DoseOfReality, Pete, Jason P (to name a few): hell yes, parents SHOULD be able to ask their childen anything.

People kept saying wait the child to come tell you; yeah it will be during the time that child has divorced (probaby has his/her own kids)and comes to you and says I'm gay!!

[Paul]

Not all parents are the same and none of them will think the same.
This topic has to be taken carefully,

I also heard horror stories from my gay friends, Sadly its part of the reality. today.

-What if parents are hurt because they expect to get grandkids?

-What if one of your parents is not psychologically prepared?

-What if your parents can accept other's kids gayness but their own.

-What if they do emotional blackmail?

Many questions and all depends on the family's maturity, social and psychological settings.

Do your personal check out and act according your possibilities.

[Greg6067]

I say that parents should talk to their children about sexuality and the aspects of being gay, non-gay, trans gender and such. This means also that they should be knowledgable about these things or as others have said bring in people to help their kids understand what sexuality is about. I think that as a community we should be pushing for sex education in High Schools to include having people that are gay, trans gender and such come and discuss these issues in sex education so that young people are better prepared and able to understand their sexuality at an early age!

[Tim]

My mom never outright asked me but once when asking me about any girls I as interested in (because I've had a gf) asked me if there was a chance I was interested in any guys and it caught me by surprise but I had already known that she wasn't being judgmental or anything. There definitely has to be a trust there.

[Joey]

Sure, I think so... If a parent can talk to their kid to abstain or dont do drugs or even scold him for doing something wrong.. then why not ask if their kid is gay or not as long as its not intended negatively and are understanding and supportive of it.

[Glenn, Texas]

I HATE the view. I HATE the moron Elizabeth and I think it's time the third-rate "journalist" Barbara retired. This show is AWFUL and irrelevant. They don't ever discuss anything properly and it drives me INSANE that they talk all at the same time.
The only time this shows was good was when Kathy Griffin was on it !

[Enriq]

I remember that my aunt asked me once in front of my mom, if i was gay? But Iwas 14, and I was afraid to say it, well... she said before I answer: 'if you're gay, you will have to keep your distance from your cousins 'cuz you may be a bad influence'... And at that moment, all the friends I had, were my cousins, so.. I said, No I'm not gay.
When I turned 16, I finally decided to get out of the closet, so I told my mom, what I really was, and how proud and great I was feeling at that moment. .. She didn't have the reacction that I expected... but later she told me.. I love you, and it won't change at all, but let's keep it as a secret to the family... so I did it... But, 1 year ago, I got out of the closet completly... Sooo!, what I think about this subjectis that a mother shouldn't ask her son if his gay or not, if she isn't prepared for the answer (:

[lakefieldhaz]

As someone who has run a number of workshops regarding sexual orientation as well as a coming out group I think they need to leave it up to the child to come out on their own time.
I would suggest someone make sure that their child knows that no matter what you will love them. Also create a positive space so they know their parent doesn't have an issue with Queer people.
I think kids would definitely be more inclined to come out to their parents if they know their parents are okay with Queer people or have Queer friends/family.

[Astro]

well, obviously it varies from situation to situation, but why not ask?

of course if you know you will get a negative, adverse reaction, dont do it till you are on your own financially

I'm so happy my mom asked me, I dont think I would have had the courage, and in my case, it came out well

[gneissone]

When my dad told me that it was ok to be gay, I was relieved. It was like, "ah... my fear of being out is no longer present. I'm already out, yay and it's no biggie for my parents." If as a parent, you're open about it, make it easier for your kids to open up by giving him/her clues that you're going to love him/her regardless of sexual preference.

My dad's only advice to me then was, "just make sure that you're in the right path and take care of your career"

[Rev B]

A parent shouldnt have to ask, cause it shouldnt matter to a loving parent, the only one it really affects is the child

[Fabian]

This makes me mad.
First off, how stereotypical of them to say that if they are playing with dolls or makeup they are gay or might be. NOT ALL GAY GUYS ARE FEMININE. I never did any of that as a child.

Also, personally, I believe it is good for the parent to let them know they are always available to talk to about anything personal...but to ask if they are gay isn't right. Each person goes through their own struggles at their own pace. Give them the time and space they need to accept theirselves before having to come out to people. It's a hard thing to go through for some people.

[Jeff]

We all know what this is about. Sherri Sheppard knows that her son is going to be gay and is just FREAKING OUT. And probably one of Hassleback's kids too. Meanwhile Joy and Whoopie are laughing there asses off backstage at those two.